There’s a powerful question that A Course in Miracles suggests we ask ourselves anytime we are tempted to be angry or upset with another person. And that question is this: “Does he need help or condemnation?” (T-25.III.9) When we’re with our ego, we see all the reasons why this person deserves our wrath. They did this awful, unkind thing to us. They are not a good person – at least not in a particular moment. They were unfair. They should feel bad for what they did.